You can choose not to be angry with me!

We can choose our thoughts – even if we can’t choose what happens to us.  We can choose how we respond.

I talk frequently about how we can choose our thoughts and emotions!  Having young children keeps me walking my talk.

Like the day my seven-year old daughter said to me “Mummy, you can choose not to be angry with me!”    Don’t you love the way children repeat back to you what you’ve said?

This wise crack came only days after her experience with choosing emotions:

She had been feeling a little bit grumpy before school and I said to her: “Well you’ve a choice, you can choose to feel positive today or you can feel grumpy.”   It’s also important to acknowledge the things that are bugging us, so I thought it important to have a really good chat with her that day.

So on the way to the school, we were chatting about other things.   We found things that she was happy and grateful for.  We talked about what was really going on in her heart.   When you focus on the things that you like and are grateful for, you start to see more great things in your life.

She pointed out that it’s wonderful to have the trees and flowers, open spaces, parks – branches, leaves, blue sky and the freedom to be able to walk to school.

That afternoon she said to me:  “Mummy, now that I have made a decision to be so happy…I can’t think of any reasons why I would want to be grumpy. “

So I like to leave you with that thought…Think today about all the reasons to be happy because when you have done that…you won’t be able to think of one single reason why you would want to be unhappy!

So have a great day!

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Dare to be a Dramatic decision-maker!

“Decision – the Mastery of Procrastination.  The Seventh Step to Riches

Careful analysis of thousands of men and women who had experienced failure revealed that LACK OF DECISION was near the head of the list of the 30 Major causes of Failure….

Procrastination, the opposite of Decision, is a commond enemy which practically every individual must conquer…” Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich

 

Decision-making is a process that can be improved by exercising our decision-making muscles.  As we make more decisive actions, we become better decision makers – we make better decisions with the information we have, and we become more sure of the decisions we’ve made.  We have the answers inside of us, so why do we waver and choose to dwell in uncertainty – and not make the decisions we need to?

Here are five easy steps to take to set you on the road towards making better decisions:

1.  Remember all the great decisions you’ve made in your life.  Use your intellectual faculty of memory to think of all the great decisions you have made in your life.  Selectively screen out decisions where you wish you’d chosen something different.

2.  Make some quick decisions on a daily basis – commit to make snap decisions on things that have no great impact on long-term success.  For example: next time you’re in a restuarant, decide to read the menu once only, decide on something to eat, and then be happy with what you’ve decided.   How often have you wasted minutes or hours trying to decide on something that really has no long term consequence?

3. Recognise that different things have different factors and time periods – and need to be given different time considerations.   You are the only one who knows the appropriate amount of time it takes to reach a decision for any one aspect of your life.  It might be common to take a minute or two to decide on something that only has a $5 effect in our life, but a few days to decide on buying capital equipment or property.   As we gain more information in that particular area, we get better at making quicker accurate decisions.

4.  Value yourself as a great decision-maker. Tell yourself that you are great at making decisions.  Each time you are pleased with your choice, say “That was a great decision, I am so happy with what I chose.”   Using post-it notes on your mirror with “I am a great decision-maker” may cause some laughter when you first read it, thereafter you will start to believe it – and see the results in the quality of your life!

5.  Identify where fear is causing you to stay “stuck” in indecision.  Think about what fear you have over making the wrong decision.  Once you have recognised what the fear is, realised that it may be what you’re fearing is an unlikely outcome, it is easier to make the decision.

For more information, or a coaching session around your decision-making abilities, contact Jill Hutchison – jill@evolvedynamic.net.

 

Jill Hutchison, Perth Australia – bringing you clarity to create the life you desire.

As a qualified Life Coach for Business owners and Investors, Jill asks you the questions you may not ask yourself.  Jill has been trained by both Bob Proctor and Loral Langemeier (both featured on the hit movie “The Secret”) and brings the best of the teachings to you.  Coaching is done in person or over Skype or telephone.  Jill is known affectionately by her colleagues and clients around the world as the Perth coach!

Application to join an exclusive mastermind group facilitated by Jill Hutchison can be made by emailing jill@evolvedynamic.com.

Helping you create the life you desire – through your business. Evolve Dynamic – evolve your life dynamically, and have lots of fun while doing it!

You are the most important person in your life!

This statement often jars people when they read it.  We are conditioned to put others first, to feel selfish if we try and place too much importance on ourselves.  In the talks I give I can see people visibly gasp when I tell them this.  In a large group of women I addressed recently, there was a stunned atmosphere when this was discussed.

Are you putting others first constantly? Are you feeling overwhelmed, unappreciated and exhausted?  How would you feel if you started appreciating more of what you’re doing? How would you feel if you started putting your own needs ahead of your children’s needs?

As a mother, I was so in the habit of selecting menu items based on what the younger children would enjoy eating – knowing full well that I might be the one finishing the food once they had tired of it.  On the odd occassion when I went out to eat with adults-only it was almost a challenge to think what food I really wanted to eat!

How easily do we allow our thoughts and goals to be dominated in the same way?  I have a challenge for you: Today, right now, write out five things that you would really like – just for you.  Not for your partner, or for your children, nor for your parents, siblings or friends – what would you reallly like to be, do or have?

When we get back our passion for things that we really love to do – or strive for something we really want – that is when we have most to offer to those around us.  This striving gives us energy, something to focus upon – and the enthusiasm that comes from knowing you could achieve something outside of your other roles, is really infectious.

“The only thing preventing us from being who we want to be, doing what we want to do, and having what we want to have is the stories we tell ourselves about why we can’t.”   Sharon Pearson: Your Success.